The 8 things women do all the time which instantly turn men off & it's bad news if you ask what they do for a living
IT can be hard to find a man, but perhaps we are instantly turning them off without realising it.
Etiquette expert Myka Meier has thankfully revealed eight very common date faux pas – so how many are you guilty of?
Here, Myka, author of Modern Etiquette Made Easy, tells Fabulous exactly what you should avoid doing when meeting a man…
1. Asking “so what do you do for a living?”
Inquiring about what someone does for a living as an initial conversation starter can come across as opportunistic and be a major turnoff.
It can be seen almost as if asking someone “so how much money do you make?” or “how successful are you?”
There are many other conversation starters and tactful questions that will tell you about the other person, and likely what they do for a living will come up at some point anyway.
One of my most successful male clients once said if a woman asks him that question on a first date, it’s an automatic red flag, as if how much money or success he has is the first thing they want to know, it’s certainly not the right person for him.
2. Asking too many personal questions during a first conversation.
These can include “do you want children?” or “do you want to get married?”
If the other person chooses to share very personal or intimate details during a first conversation or date such as their desire to have a family, then let that be their prerogative.
However to put someone on the spot and ask such personal details on a first phone call, date or meeting can be seen as too prying, aggressive or over eager.
Instead, focus on questions that ensure you have chemistry.
To see if the initial attraction is there, you should be able to identify if you are physically attracted to them and if there a spark when you communicate, implying mental attraction.
3. Ordering the most expensive thing on a menu
If someone is taking you on a date and it’s clear they are paying, there is nothing more rude than to order the most expensive items on a menu- both food and beverage.
It can easily come across as if you are taking advantage of your date and his generosity.
4. Checking out other men
If you are on a date and constantly looking over his shoulder at the next best option, that’s a surefire way to end a date early.
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Not only is it a slap to your date’s ego, but to make your date feel inferior and that you are expressing interest or attraction to other men can show lack of both interest and loyalty.
5. Telling them you researched them
Nowadays it’s common to date online or google the person before you meet up.
However no matter how much research you do, it can be a turn off to hear that the person sitting across from him googled his life, or that your entire family or friend circle practically stalked him before meeting up.
It can easily feel like an invasion of privacy, and to admit you already know so much about someone who didn’t tell you details themselves, which can be very off-putting.
6. Talking about your ex
No matter if you are over them or not, your old relationship should not encroach into your potential new one.
Unless he asks, don’t mention your ex…things good or bad. It can show you’re not over them or even bitter…both qualities which could be an immediate turn off.
7. Talking about yourself too much
There is nothing more boring than a one way conversation.
To simply talk about yourself the entire date (or even most of) shows lack of interest of one person in the other.
Not only could you come across self-centred, but not asking questions or wanting to get to know the other person shows lack of attentiveness, self awareness and social skillset.
8. Being late without good reason / without letting someone know in advance.
Showing up “fashionably late” is not fashionable when it comes to being on a date.
In fact, being late is a disrespect for someone else’s time and considered rude.
For every minute you think you will be late, I recommend giving the person 2 minutes advance notice.
There is nothing worse than sitting at a table or bar and getting a text 10 minutes after the time you were supposed to meet your date saying they are running another 15 minutes late.
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