I feel like such a failure and wish I'd made more of my life

DEAR DEIDRE: I BELIEVE I’m a complete failure and I wish I’d never been born.

I wish I had done more after leaving school and progressed with training and learning new things instead of settling down too early and having children.

I am a 54-year-old woman. My husband wouldn’t understand if I were to tell him. He is 56 and mostly optimistic about life, with an interesting career in conservation.


Get in touch with Deidre today

Every problem gets a personal reply, usually within 24 hours weekdays.

Send an email to [email protected]

You can also send a private message on the DearDeidreOfficial Facebook page.

He knows I get down, but if I told him I wish I had never been born, he would be at a complete loss.

For more advice from Dear Deidre

No issue is too small, too large or too embarrassing. Read our personal replies here.

  • Dear Deidre on Mental Health
  • Dear Deidre on Identity  
  • Dear Deidre on Debt and Money 
  • Dear Deidre on Work
  • Dear Deidre on Health and Wellbeing 
  • Dear Deidre on Addiction

I feel old, stupid and regret not making something of my life.

DEIDRE SAYS: You’re not a failure. You have done a great job with your children. Many view motherhood as the hardest job of all.

You sound depressed, so see your GP as soon as you can. My support pack on Depression explains more.

Feelings of low self-esteem often begin in childhood. Perhaps you found it hard to live up to other people’s expectations.

My support pack Raising Self-Esteem will also help, and do share your feelings with your husband.

NEXT IN TODAY'S DEAR DEIDRE I've fallen for my married coworker – can we be friends?

READ DEIDRE'S NEW PHOTO CASEBOOK Jane works up the courage to ditch her boyfriend Ryan

    Source: Read Full Article