Infuriated mum says husband is getting all the credit after traumatic birth
An 'infuriated' new mum has revealed her 'unicorn' husband is getting all the parenting credit after the traumatic birth of their daughter.
The woman, whose "gorgeous" little girl is just over six weeks old, said her partner returned to work a fortnight ago and misses them a lot.
To compensate, she said he does the majority of the feeds and changes when he is at home, to give her a break and squeeze in as many 'daddy-daughter' cuddles as possible.
The mum praises her husband for being an "absolute angel" throughout the "rough ride" of labour and acknowledges how wonderful it is to have a partner who is hands on.
But she says people have started to make insensitive remarks when they are out and about.
"We've had a few comments from friends and family members about how she is always with him and how she's such a daddy's girl," the mum shared on parenting forum Mumsnet.
"One even asked if I had ever changed her nappy. Obviously this is infuriating as they don't seem to realise or take into account that I'm alone with her all day every day.
"I'm getting really down about worrying that it makes me look like a crap mum and that he does everything."
The woman asked users if they thought she was being over-sensitive, but the reaction was incredibly supportive.
One woman wrote: "It's the usual sexist BS. Ignore them and be happy that you've found a good man, they are few and far between."
Another said: "First of all, you have nothing to feel bad about and everything to feel happy about. What a lucky little girl to be so adored and cared for by both mum and dad. Sounds like you, husband and baby are all doing brilliantly.
"Who on earth is making such stupid comments? You're well within your rights to challenge their nasty remarks and question them on what basis do they judge you to not be meeting your child's needs.
"Ask them, do they really suppose your baby goes uncared for when your husband is at work, or are they just trying to provoke and belittle you for some other reason?"
The mum's sparked hundreds of comments, to which she replied: "Oh wow, thank you those who have commented so quickly. Sat up feeding her at this time and just feeling a bit sensitive I think.
"You're right, it is sexist BS. Just because he actually parents and doesn't 'babysit' his child, people talk to him as if he's some kind of unicorn and me as if I'm a spoiled princess."
"I know it annoys him too, maybe I need to encourage him to point it out to the people who make comments."
Mum's post in full
So my gorgeous baby is just over six-weeks-old and it's been a bit of a rough ride after a traumatic birth experience. My husband has been an absolute angel throughout the whole thing, I cannot fault him at all.
He went back to work two weeks ago and he misses us a lot when he's at work as I'm sure most new dads do.
So when he's with us, he tends to be very cuddly with her, does the majority of feeds and changes, etc.
Obviously this is great as it means I get a bit of a break when he's home but people have started to make comments when we're out socially.
We've had a few comments from friends and family members about how she is always with him and how she's such a daddy's girl. One even asked if I had ever changed her nappy.
Obviously this is infuriating as they don't seem to realise or take into account that I'm alone with her all day every day.
I'm getting really down about worrying that it makes me look like a crap mum and that he does everything.
Am I being over sensitive or would you judge a mum if you only ever saw baby being fed/held by dad?
It feels like we're held to such an impossible standard sometimes.
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