Sex has been painful since my circumcision and now my relationship is suffering

DEAR DEIDRE: I WAS circumcised three months ago because I was having a few problems.

Sex has been painful ever since and my sex drive has hit rock bottom.

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I am 39 and my partner is 36. We have been together for five years.

My partner is wonderful. She goes out of her way to make me feel loved and adores me, but I just don’t feel the desire any more.

My partner is convinced I don’t find her attractive or she thinks I am having affairs, but the truth is I just can’t stomach sex.

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It is beginning to really affect us. We have even started sleeping separately, which I hate.

I wish I had never gone through with this operation.

DEIDRE SAYS: It is hard to be sure how much of the trauma you have suffered is psychological and how much due to the physical results of surgery.

You should not be in pain. You must tell your GP about the physical and psychological impact.

You can get expert advice and understanding about circumcision from who may be able to suggest after-care.

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