Woman, 22, feared evil boyfriend was going to execute her as he made her kneel in a field during campaign of abuse
A YOUNG woman who feared she was going to be stabbed to death when her evil ex-boyfriend forced her to kneel in a field has bravely spoken out after he was jailed.
Naomi Baxter, 22, said she was "head over heels in love" with her Connor MacDonald, 23, who later trapped her in a violent relationship for 18 months.
Vile McDonald physically assaulted the brave survivor on multiple occasions – spitting in her face, kicking her and even punching her.
He told her he would "love" to kill her and put her "six feet under with her dad", who sadly passed away when she was just 12.
Preston Crown Court heard how in June last year, Ms Baxter and MacDonald had been rowing over unpaid rent via direct messages on Twitter.
MacDonald threatened to stab Ms Baxter's family members and demanded she meet him in a nearby field at 5pm or he'd "smash her gaff to pieces".
'WOULD LOVE TO KILL HER'
When she arrived, he told her to turn around and kneel on the ground.
But when she looked back at him he had his hand down the back of his joggers where she thought the knife was.
As she ran from the field, he laughed and told her: "You can go but if you do your whole family will die."
Thankfully, two people found her and the police were alerted.
Ms Baxter, who had been too terrified to confide in family and friends about McDonald's relentless abuse, said his manipulation went so far she would apologise for "making him" torment her..
MacDonald, of Preston, Lancs, was jailed for 12 months after pleading guilty to assault and making threats to kill.
Connor had been abusing me and keeping me trapped in our 'relationship' with emotional and physical abuse for months and I hadn't even taken notice of it."
Ms Baxter has bravely shared her experience as she said her struggle would not be in vain if it helped "a single other person".
Naomi, from Kirkham, Lancs, said: "It's so hard for me to look back – I'm still struggling every day to come to terms with what I experienced.
"Despite everything he put me through, I believed he was the best boyfriend in the world. But he was an evil man.
"I was terrified every single day but I also felt like I had to be there with him even if I was so scared of him.
"He told me I'd never be believed – he'd convinced me it was all in my head. That I deserved it."
Ms Baxter, who works in debt management, met MacDonald in school when they were just 14 but only started dating him 18 months ago.
CAMPAIGN OF ABUSE
Of their relationship, she said: "Connor had been abusing me and keeping me trapped in our 'relationship' with emotional and physical abuse for months and I hadn't even taken notice of it.
"I knew I was depressed, I knew he made me feel dreadful, and I knew the things he was subjecting me to weren't particularly normal but he made it all feel so natural and it was even part of our routine.
"He would threaten to murder my family because I wanted to leave him, this would stretch from my mum to my nieces and nephews.
"He would threaten to kill himself if I ever told him I wanted to leave the relationship.
"On multiple occasions he physically assaulted me. This would range from spitting in my face, kicking me, pushing me, pulling me by my hair and as far as punching me.
HOW YOU CAN GET HELP:
Women's Aid has this advice for victims and their families:
- Always keep your phone nearby.
- Get in touch with charities for help, including the Women’s Aid live chat helpline and services such as SupportLine.
- If you are in danger, call 999.
- Familiarise yourself with the Silent Solution, reporting abuse without speaking down the phone, instead dialing “55”.
- Always keep some money on you, including change for a pay phone or bus fare.
- If you suspect your partner is about to attack you, try to go to a lower-risk area of the house – for example, where there is a way out and access to a telephone.
- Avoid the kitchen and garage, where there are likely to be knives or other weapons. Avoid rooms where you might become trapped, such as the bathroom, or where you might be shut into a cupboard or other small space.
If you are a victim of domestic abuse, SupportLine is open Tuesday, Wednesday and Thursday from 6pm to 8pm on 01708 765200. The charity’s email support service is open weekdays and weekends during the crisis – [email protected]
Women’s Aid provides a live chat service available. from 10am to noon.
You can also call the freephone 24-hour National Domestic Abuse Helpline on 0808 2000 247.
"Every time this would happen he said I deserved it and that I knew where to go if I didn't like it, yet I wasn't allowed to leave. I would have to formally apologise to him for 'making' him do this to me.
"All I wanted was to love and be loved by Connor but all he did was make me a victim to the most awful emotional and physical abuse.
"He may not have broken any of my bones but he has certainly broken other parts of me.
"Becoming free from his chains was liberating, but trying to heal myself has been a long and lonely path.
"I have been left absolutely traumatised by his actions and am living in constant torment because of the abuse he had subjected me to for so long.
"I am on the road to recovery and letting all of the taught behaviour fall off me. It is a lot harder than I can put into words, but it's a lot easier than living through it."
After he was locked up, she said she felt she needed to find the courage to speak out as many other people will be trapped like she was – especially during lockdown.
She said: "It was too late for me but maybe other people can still escape this."
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